TW- body/ food topics.
During my call the other day with my coach Jamie I had told her there’s been a few passive aggressive comments that have been made about my pregnant body.
I told her I didn’t feel overly comfortable sharing this on social media because you never know who you’re gonna trigger or piss off. But I guess… after chatting & her reminding me to always stay authentic and speak my truth- here I am. Clearly I’ve been poked a few times & at 9 months I’ve hit the point of sharing my standpoint lol.
I understand growing a whole human is a shock in its own, or the shock of not seeing a woman for a few months then being surprised at how small or how much they’ve grown can come across as a bit of a wow moment, but this isn’t necessarily the focus of the conversation that needs to be spoken about.
Hellooo, I’m fully aware of my ever changing and growing body. But as women we have such a standard to be held up to.
Before getting pregnant, I deep dove into working on myself. I switched to a non toxic lifestyle and became sober, all with the intention of being the best person I could physically be. With doing so, surprise! I got pregnant. There’s definitely no coincidence that in all my years, my body was finally the healthiest it had ever been and was ready to house a beautiful baby. I had shown up, nurtured myself, did the work, and chose the healthier lifestyle.
In the past 9 months I’ve heard comments like-
“Don’t gain too much weight or it’ll be hard to get off”
“Omg what fast food/ bad food have you been craving”
“Your chichis and your belly have gotten HUGE”
“My friend didn’t look like you at X amount of months”
“Wow! I’m smaller than you now!”
The list goes on. But what I’ve experienced and processed during these months is- It’s the only time it’s “socially acceptable” to call a woman huge, humongous, or say things like omg look at your belly. Which thinking of saying those comments to a non pregnant, curvier healthy woman makes me cringe and want to come out of my soul.
What I have to say after my coaching call/ truth bomb conversation is-
We shouldn’t be comparing women with other women. We’re all individuals and secondly I have grown this baby with the utmost consideration of my health. Being pregnant wasn’t my opportunity to fall off the wagon and eat like a dumpster fire, it was a moment to nourish and take care of myself and my daughter. Society has used this opportunity of pregnancy as a hall pass to eat whatever you want, binge on whatever you dreamt of, and gain weight that we'd normally try and "avoid".
In this day and age we’re constantly bombarded with body positivity this, body positivity that. However 90% of the time it’s someone being blatantly unhealthy. Media has it so mixed up that we’ve confused mistreating our health for confidence.
So for the people who glorify/ defend self love and body positivity towards non pregnant women, please be mindful of the comments you make on a woman who is literally nurturing a baby and bringing life into this world.
Literally food for thought.
I've taken my half edited notes and turned them into something. If you've made it here- welcome. I hope I've found my people.